Relationship Coaching!

Relationship coaching is finally here!!! I’m so happy to be able to bring this to you!

I have been working on Relationship coaching for some time, because I see it over and over again when working with couples and families on their health issues, or coaching a client- eventually, the differences with their significant other comes up.

Now the difference from a naturopathic point of view is that some interpersonal problems can be seen constitutionally. For example, one partner might have a resilient constitution and the other might have a less resilient constitution- This means heaps when it comes to understanding your partner. For instance, If you have a strong resilience, then you have the ability to go and go and go like the energiser bunny, then you might get energised by doing things like walking, running, gardening, moving furniture, taking action, and sometimes this means you might struggle with why someone else may need to sit out and rest, or just can’t do as much as you do. On the other hand, if you have a less resilient constitution, then you re-energised by stopping and having a rest, reading a book, listening to music, or having some downtime.

Just from the two types of constitution that I have described, can you already see how some of the frustration and arguments that might arise amongst partners? Hopefully, you can; but just in case- these types will often argue that the workload is unfairly distributed, or that the other should know how they feel– that they should just see that something needs doing, and do it.

But that perception is just the tip of the iceberg. It has also not taken into account at all the differences between the individuals and the fact that we delete and distort information that isn’t relevant to us. So, if you are the least resilient type, your energy is likely to be low and you need to recharge, so your subconscious might delete or distort the 10 household tasks that need attention- Just as in the same way when the neighbours decide to mow their lawns- at first you might be aware of the lawn mower (the sound could interrupt your consciousness), but after a while, you totally drown out the sound because it’s irrelevant to you at that point in time. This deleting and distorting happens a million times a day every day.

Now I’ve just described one factor of what makes us different, and you can see the issues that can arise from it because we are simply unaware. There is, however much more differences- for example, your individual disc profiles-

DISC. stands for the personality types: Dominate, Influencer, Stable and Compliant. We are each a makeup of a combination of these types and each type has a different motivation. For example D- Dominant energy types are goal orientated, fast thinking, quick decision makers if the conditions are met, and they sometimes can come across as uncaring and lacking empathy because their purpose and goals at the moment are different to another energy type. This contrasts with S – Stability types, who have a mother archetype- they are very much into connection and will give up some of there desires and boundaries etc; in order to maintain the connection. Hopefully, you will see some of the problems that might arrive from a relationship between these two- particularly if they are unaware of their partner’s energy type

To add another layer to that, we have our 5 love languages- Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. This is where we have set up some of our rules about being loved. For example, If someone who loves quality time is in a relationship with someone who loves receiving gifts, then there is totally space there for confusion to take place- because the person who loves gifts will share love by giving gifts, and if they give a gift to someone that loves with quality time, then that ‘quality time’ person feels like their partner is trying to buy their love- and the gift person feels like the other doesn’t love them enough to think about them and give a gift instead.

So hopefully by now you starting to see how simple things can become troublesome in a relationship when the desire and intent is not actually to be upsetting to your loved one.

…And the list of things that complicate this goes on and on, adding in all of our personal history and the meaning we give to our life events, etc.

So this is why I have created my Relationship Coaching Packages, because I see a need for couples, families and even individuals to gain a deeper understanding of each other, so they can choose to be more love flexible, show love more deeply, and clear up the miscommunication and misconceptions that block the pathway to deep love, connection and understanding.

Below are my 3 packages that are available to work with me on understanding your loved one and yourself more fully.

Basics ‘ WE GOT THIS’ Package

Includes:

6 x 90-minute couple coaching session (one per month)

2x Behaviour Profiles with a 30 min ‘unpack’ each person

2x Core Driver Profiles – which will ensure that you understand what drives each of you with your decision making. 

Appropriate Resources for the couple

$1,500

Silver ‘LET’S GIVE IT WHAT WE’VE GOT’ Package

Includes:

6 x 90-minute couple coaching session (one per month)

2 x 60-minute private sessions (one each)

2 x Behaviour Profiles with a 30 min ‘unpack’ each person

2 x Core Driver Profiles – which will ensure that you understand what drives each of you with your decision making. 

1 x Couples Goal Journal 

1 x Tribal Guide Post E-books  – Setting the benchmarks for your family

Appropriate Resources for the couple

$1,800

Gold ‘WE’RE THROWING EVERYTHING AT IT’ Package

Includes:

6 x 90-minute couple coaching session (one per month)

6 x 60-minute private sessions (six each)

2 x Behaviour Profiles with a 30 min ‘unpack’ each person

2 x Core Driver Profiles – which will ensure that you understand what drives each of you with your decision making. 

1 x Couples Goal Journal 

1 x Tribal Guide Post E-books  – Setting the benchmarks for your family

1 x Important conversation starters for couples E-Book

1x Active Listening Printable

1x How to fight fair E-Book

Appropriate Resources for the couple

*** Payment plans available upon Request

*** No matter what package you decide works for you, you can always book in for an extra private session at any time.

Much love and many blessings

Christina.